When She Needs It Rough…

There are two quotes I have seen lately that I think are worth mentioning.

"When she says harder she means it!"
"When she says to be rough with her, then do it.  She will let you know when it gets too rough."

I think there is some truth to these statements.  This is especially true when it comes to D/s and bdsm.  I think there is some inherent roughness that is associated and a part of what we do in this lifestyle.  That doesn't mean being rough is always part of whatever play you are doing, as there are plenty of times we can be sensual and passionate as well.  The rough aspects could be in the form of rough sex, rough treatment, being manhandled, in giving or receiving pain, or any number of things.

For submissive women, it can be very difficult for them to ask for what they want or need, and particularly when that involves asking you to be rough or forceful.  So, when she does ask or mention it, and finds the wherewithal to bring it up to you as her Dominant, then you better believe she means it.  And yes...if you begin to go too far, she will let you know.

This isn't giving you a free ticket to go insane and unleash every ounce of fury you have on her.  Let's keep it in perspective.  But if she says "harder" in the middle of sex, then you better believe she wants it.  If she says "Be rough with me", then you better believe she means it.  It's what she needs to feel from you...your possession...your Dominance...your strength...your power.  I'm not suggesting you allow her to top from the bottom, but words such as these coming from her mouth should be a glaring clue to you as to how strongly she needs this.

As a Dominant, this can be a very fine line.  What is hard enough?  What is too hard?  What is too rough?  What can she take?  What can she not take from me?  This is where you have to know your submissive inside and out.  You have to base it on your experiences together and know what she can and can't take.  If you don't know, then take it slow.  Step it up a little at a time.  It's much better to not go far enough than to go too far.

Given this topic and post, I think it's a great time to mention safe words.  You should always have a safe word in place.  You may never need or use it, but the one time you do need it and it's not there?  Well, that won't be a good situation.  As a Dominant, you need to always heed to her safe word.  If she utters it, stop everything right then and there.  As a submissive, you have to understand that a safe word is not power or control or a way for you to not do something just because you don't like it.  A safe word is there for your safety and well being, and is to be used when you feel you can't take any more or your safety is in jeopardy.

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Spanking Goes Primetime… (So Funny)

One of my most favorite shows of all time is the sitcom "The Big Bang Theory".  It's the funniest show and it revolves around some twenty somethings, who are uber-smart geniuses, socially awkward, sci-fi junkie physicists and biologists.  If you have never watched it, I would recommend it for some really good humor.Two of the people on the show, that play roles where they are way too smart for their own good, are in a relationship that is...well, awkward and mostly platonic for lack of understanding relationships.  Although the female (Amy) wants more, and the male (Sheldon) has no clue about even how to have a relationship on any level.  Apparently in last night new episode, there was some spanking involved for some bad behavior.  This is one of the funniest scenes I've seen on the show, and is a must watch...at least to me. I couldn't find a way to embed the video, but the link is below.  Enjoy! ***Update...finally found it on youtube and embedded it.  :) ***  

Hands Together…




On her knees...
Hands together...
She gave thanks...
Thanks for all He had shown her...
For all He had made her feel...
For all He had opened her up to...
Allowed and enabled her to finally experience...
To finally find herself...
All she is and has always been...
Thanks for the freedom...
Freedom from the prison of her own mind...
From being trapped by hr own thoughts...
Thanks for finally being able to just be...
To be herself...
To be accepted and appreciated...
To feel loved and cared for...
Thanks for being able to give all she is to Him...
To be all she needs to be for Him...
To finally be accountable and of service...
She thanks Him for her binds...
As this is when she feels most his...
Most possessed...
Most owned...
Most free...
On her knees, she puts her hands together...
And shows her grattitude...
Shows her reverence...
With hands together...
She thanks Him for everything!

~DV~