I saw this cartoon and had to laugh. It is a funny blurb. But then it immediately got me to thinking. It seems as though this is so true in real life. Many times people seem supportive and encouraging, yet they aren’t doing it for your benefit, but rather for their own personal reasons and gain.
Because it’s the way my brain works, I immediately related this picture and my thoughts to this lifestyle. Trust is the cornerstone of it all. Being able to trust someone, or a group of people in this lifestyle is at the core essence of all this is. Domination requires trust. Submission requires trust. If you don’t have that trust then you have nothing. The vultures will try to push and test you, regardless of trust. Don’t let them!
We have a relationship with punishment and domination without spanking. In fact, I haven't been spanked in years. Not only because I've been so good. Also because that's not the way our D/s works.
In his essay “Why Anal Hurts” the 40-year-old author is quick to point out that he advocates painful sexual submission, not sexual abuse or rape. However, he still has ideas most feminists would hate. His whole idea is that men were made to penetrate and dominate, and women were made to submit and receive penetration. From an evolutionary point of view, he’s right, and he uses this to justify a man training and hurting a woman with whom he is in a committed relationship: