Force…

Force...it can only be exerted with trust in hand.
It can only be accepted from the chosen one.  
Being taken...and used...forcefully...
Is only acceptable from the one that you have given that right...
That permission...that side of yourself.
Fore is needed at times...
Having taken from you what you have offered.
Taking from you what you willingly give.
Being used for who you are...
And who you need to be.
To be shown who you truly are..
And what you are capable of doing and being...
Even when you don't know yourself what that may be...
How deep that will go...
How far it will take you.
Yet, it can only feel accepted...
When the deep trust and respect are present.
When you know it is administered with care...
And love and feeling and emotion.
That it is done with intent...
And to allow you to grow and become more.
Force...reserved for the one...
Who has earned and deserves it.
And then that force is welcomed with open arms...
With an open mind and heart.
Needing to have it to be shown and reminded...
Of who you are...
Who you need to be...
Who you don't even know you need to be yet...
And exactly to whom and where you belong. 
 
~DV~
 
 

Completing The Circle…

The warmth...
The electricity...
Flowing freely back and forth...
Each one feeding the other...
A mere touch is not enough...
A touch leads to a kiss...
A kiss to touching...
Touching to exploring...
Exploring into bodies flesh on flesh...
The feel of possession...
The need to be connected...
The need to join our bodies together...
Connecting on a more physical level...
Which connects us on a more spiritual level...
One taking and the other giving...
Each receiving what they need...
Each feeling their place with the other...
Leading...following
Guiding...obeying
Directing...serving
Being exactly who each needs to be...
For themselves and each other...
That completes the circle!
~DV~

Bondage Photography

As a long time photographer with an interest in Fetish and Bondage, I have incorporated my photo skills with enjoyment of this activity. I think this is something anyone with a camera can do. Of course your subject must be willing to be photographed and you must agree ahead of time where and how the photos will be used. I think it would be very easy to get in trouble with this if you posted someone’s photo without their approval especially on a public site where they can be easily recognized.I found that I can take a lot of photos without showing the person’s face, thus concealing their identity.

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Miss Bliss


Although the concept of intercourse interested me, it also scared me a little.  I knew I wasn’t ready for it, but I also knew I was dying to be close to boys so I could kiss them and be held by them.  After the affair with Walter, there was a drought.  I had crushes on older boys who barely noticed me, boys my own age were largely pigs, and puberty had now brought me to the teetering edge of full-blown adolescence, where each day was a new and deeper pit of hellish self-consciousness, self-loathing and almost untenable horniness. 

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A Glorious Awakening: Everyone Fucks

There will be time to go back and talk about early childhood, but I’ll start with my first conscious awareness of sex between partners. 

I was walking with my friend Carol outside my old Brooklyn elementary school, P.S. 169, when she asked me if I knew how babies were made.   I had just devoured a great big greasy slice of pizza and her question made me queasy.  I was 11 years old and puberty was making a loud and early entrance in my life.  Yet though I was noticing boys more, and was filled with romantic fantasies based on the novels and movies I’d read, the mechanics of baby-making eluded me.   I was content to leave it that way.  Even then, I knew I didn’t want children.  Still, once she raised the subject, curiosity got the better of me.  “How?”

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Is It Play Or Is It Real?!?!

For me it's fairly easy to break BDSM into two main categories.  First, there are those that just like the kink and the role play, which I call kinksters.  It may just be sexually or from time to time for fun or as a way to spice things up.  The second is those that Domination and submission is is a deep part of who they are and something they need in their life.  It transcends just play and kink and is some they need to feel complete and whole.  It's a way of life.  I, without a doubt, fall into the second group.  It's a part of me and what I need to have as a part of a relationship.  It's part of who I am.  There is nothing wrong with being a kinkster, so don't get me wrong.  Either is fine as long as it works for the person engaged in it.  You have to find what fits and is right for you.  But just for play or a role...not for me.

Whenever I see problems within this lifestyle, one way or another it seems to come back to the difference in these two categories, or at least many times it does.  And when people are new to this, especially Dominants, or those claiming to be Dominants, this is the part they just don't get...not yet anyway.  This doesn't mean they can't learn and that most don't want to learn, but they aren't there yet. These Dominants jump right in when they see this and think it looks fun.  They think it would be great to have a woman be at his beck and call.  

Many submissive women, on the other hand, come into this with a deeper understanding initially of who they are and what they need.  They have looked at this for a long time before taking steps towards this lifestyle.  They know it's a part of who they are and what they need.  They have likely battled within themselves as to whether they can or really want to do this.  Or whether they feel it's even right and ok to do this.  They may be very scared and vulnerable but know they need a Dominant Man in their life to be accountable to and to have oversee them.

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