One of the things I love about pictures is there is no right or wrong way to look at them. We each see something different within the same image. This is one reason I have always enjoyed using pictures with my submissives. I can send a picture, or a link to a picture, and ask her to tell me what she sees, to tell me what she feels within the picture, or even to put herself in the picture and tell me what she feels about being in that situation.
This is a great tool for learning about her and how she sees things. Maybe how she sees herself in this lifestyle. How she sees different aspects of the lifestyle. What her wants, needs and desires may be for herself as a submissive or from me as a Dominant. The information that can be gathered from a discussion about a picture can be so valuable. It is being able to get inside her head and know more of how she thinks and feels. About what drives her. Once she shares her view, feelings, and thoughts, then I can do the same. Sometimes our views may match, and other times it may be an opportunity to look at a situation or scene different than we had before.
Recently I was presented a picture and asked to give my view about it. It was of a woman with a belt in her outstretched hand, as if she was offering it to her Dominant to use on her. I think it’s one thing to use a belt on a woman and make her submit to it. Yet, it comes from a totally different place when she is bringing you the belt and asking for it. My comment went like this:
Bringing me the belt. Needing to be beaten so badly that you would ask for it. Needing me to help you clear your mind and make you feel your place. Needing to feel my possession, the force, and my control over you. Needing to feel your own submission to it. And knowing once I start, you don’t get to decide when I’m done or you have had enough. That is up to me and only me!
That was my initial view and what I saw in the picture when I looked at it. I know it takes a very strong and secure woman, with a lot of trust for her partner, to be able to come to him and ask for a spanking or a beating. That is where my viewpoint was based. What I got back in response to my viewpoint really caught me off guard and made me think.
I have to admit, there is an appeal or maybe curiosity in everything about this. I know how the belt feels and I can’t exactly lie and say I don’t enjoy it. But how it can clear ones mind, give them the reset or release they need is very intriguing to me. I do love the thought of coming to him on my knees, handing him the belt and asking for help. Feeling safe in asking to be beaten. Trusting that there’s not judgement, only understanding. Then feeling his total possession and control as I put myself in his hands, trusting that he will give me what I need. And yes, knowing that only he decide when I’ve had enough and it’s done. I think that this could possible go both ways though. There has to be a great feeling for him during this too. Feeling and expressing Dominance and power. Maybe not the same sort of reset or release, but similar. So maybe the scenario isthat he had some long days at work with traveling and one thing after another. I can see and feel the stress weighing on him when he gets home. So I come to him, hand him his belt, strip, and offer my ass (head down ass up) to beat. Clearing his mind and giving him the release he needs. Submitting to and taking the pain because that’s what Master needs. The amount of love, respect, and trust it entails (for both of us) is simply beautiful to me!
Hmmmm… I hadn’t looked at it that way before. I tend to look at so much of what I am and do as a Dominant revolving around my submissive. Having it revolve around her needs and her desires and what she needs from me. Yes, I may talk about what I get from her and what I can take from her because she is mine, but that still fits within her needs as well. But this…this was different. This was the point of view of a submissive offering and giving herself, maybe even to her own detriment and suffering, for the betterment and happiness of her Dominant. Not being asked to take it or endure it for him. Not being made to withstand the lashes from the belt. But rather offering herself and her body to be his release, his stress relief, to help ease what he has build up inside.
To me, this is the ultimate essence and goal of what Dominance and submission are about. This is about as deep as it gets and comes from a place of love and devotion. This is putting your partners needs and well being above and beyond your own. This is being willing to give all you have to give, and suffer in doing so, not necessarily for pleasure but for the betterment of your partner and caring enough to need to do that.
This really did make me think and look at the picture in a different light. It made me look at what submission really can be and how precious it is when you have that from someone as a Dominant. Just how far your submissive may be willing to go for your happiness. Just what she may be willing to endure for you to help you feel better and relive your stress. This is the beauty of what this lifestyle really can behold.