Dominants and submissives alike often times have trouble coming to terms with the things they fantasize. With the things they find themselves desiring. With the things they find themselves craving within this lifestyle. Although, I do think it is harder for a female submissive to come to terms with than it is for the Dominant. The main reason for this? They are looking at and comparing themselves incorrectly.As a Dominant, I have had the pleasure of dealing with quite a few female submissives. Some were in real time and real life, while others were by some sort of electronic means in offering advice, answering questions, giving guidance, etc… In my approach, as many of my followers know, I require complete open and honest communication. I do not allowing hiding, running away, or avoid the truth. I will require to know her thoughts desires, fantasies, what thoughts she masturbates, to, and what really gets her off. I think this is vitally important so that I can understand her, see how she thinks, and what she needs as a submissive. Without this information, how can I possibly be a Dominant towards her?!?!