It is a sort of self-discovery. Not as in finding oneself, but in realizing certain things and having that “Ah Ha Light bulb Moment”. The one where something just all of sudden makes sense and was realized on her own. Mostly this revolves around feelings and emotions. Around her thinking and views about a particular subject. For whatever reason, in that moment, it just clicks and now there is a completely new understanding.
As a Dom, I can tell her how things are going to be. I can tell her how she should view something and how it will be viewed within our relationship. She may accept that and go with it, but at that time it will just be there. It’s like another rule. It’s just something that is expected of her.